As obtained under the system of colonialism, an abuser aims to violently take control of another person. Both systems act to break and exploit a person in order to bolster some distorted sense of glory. An abuser, whether in full awareness or not, operates a system that is aimed at destroying another’s courage to hope, as well as to foster deficiencies in one’s pride and self-esteem. Like colonialism, systematic abuse places a stronghold on the person subjected to its ministrations whether or not the perpetrator intends to do so.
Often – times the abuser justifies the status quo treatment of the subject. An apathetic society then becomes complicit in this justification of such subjugation by being mum on the subject or by not openly addressing it. The persistence of such a system tells of certain structures deeply embedded in our socialization system that allows for the perpetuation of this evil generation after generation. We need to identify and annihilate those pertinatious structures from among us.
As alluded to the poem “I don’t Break, I Bend a postcolonial renaming is called for as identity rediscovery and reclamation must be realized for recovery and transcendence. To allow for this, colonialist implants of the abuser in the psyche that reconditions a person into thinking he/she is not enough, must be rejected. Simultaneously there must also be a rejection of the attendant subjugation that overtime causes the subject person to become settled into the unacceptable positions. To escape the stranglehold- the accustomed prison- and neuter the impact of the abuser, the wounded must rename herself. In the process with God’s help that person would achieve ascendance to transform her/his point of breaking into her/his point of making
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The similarities are pretty uncanny! I love reading about it; great food for thought.
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Great post. I have to say, I had not given this much thought until now. Thanks for sharing.
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This is a great post, it has given me much to think about x
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This is first of all very well written and secondly very informative. Great share!
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Such a great eye opener that that abuse can take many form
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This is quite an interesting read, thanks sharing!
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I had not really thought about this. Interesting read!
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i haven’t thought about this till now. Good perspective!
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Good story, I didn’t know about this situation! Thanks for sharing that!
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Absolutely true! The abuser loves to feel the power of having the control.
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Yes he does
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I haven’t thought of it that way, but you have definitely brought a different perspective. It’s such an accurate finding. Thanks for sharing.
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Great article from you.This is so interesting to read!
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A different perspective, our country is a genuine example of being colonialized by different colonizers, you correct back in 300 years we were being abused if not critized and killed by the spaniards and others so that they could get hold of our country.
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Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts. I learned a lot here!
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You’ve put out a lot to think about
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Well, I certainly hadn’t thought of it that way but thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Interesting perspective.
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Sometimes, looking at issues from another perspective could be an eye opener. Thank you for the insight.
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Very interesting! I hadn’t thought about it this way before. Definitely makes me think.
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After reading this, my question becomes does this make us all abusers at one time or another? Hmm…interesting, indeed.
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Thanks for sharing your perspective. Interesting read.
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This is a subject that I have never given any thought to, but the connection is clearly there! It’s all about power and breaking others down.
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Thank you.
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I’ve never thought about a connection between these two, but if you look at history, it totally makes sense.
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Very powerful words. Short and sweet.
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Thank you.
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Wow, great READ! I am so glad I had a moment to really take this all in. The similarities are indeed there. Wow. “Often – times the abuser justifies the status quo treatment of the subject. An apathetic society then becomes complicit in this justification of such subjugation by being mum on the subject”. WOW.
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Tat’s my point
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I never thought to compare the colonizer and the abuser. You have some great points in here!
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I have a Masters in history and I can confirm that these two are one in the same. A colonizer looks to possess a land or space, in the same way an abuser looks to possess people.
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That’s correct, I like dealing with history buffs
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Everybody should be aware of this. We’re all susceptible with abuse, even from fam members who could ne narcs.
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